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The Myth Of Work/Life Balance:

7 Ways To Rethink Your Approach To The Daily Grind

(And Get Happier In The Process!)

If you�ve been killing yourself trying to achieve a daily work/life balance, Jon Gordon warns that it may be a pipe dream. He offers up another (better) solution.

�Work/life balance, at least in the sense that most of us think about it, is a myth,� asserts Jon Gordon, whose new book is The Seed: Finding Purpose and Happiness in Life and Work. �It does not exist. For many people, it never has. Personally, I have never been able to balance the scales of work and life on a day-to-day basis. Rather, I�ve come to realize that the dance between work and life is more about rhythm than balance.�

Gordon compares the rhythms of work and life to the rhythms of nature. There�s a time and a season for everything. �For me and for most people, there are seasons when hard work and extra hours are a necessity, and seasons when there is more time for rest,� he explains. �And guess what? It�s okay. When you love what you do � and I truly believe there is meaning and even joy to be found in every job � you�ll thrive during the busy seasons and fully appreciate the down time.�

Gordon�s latest book, a business fable in the same vein as his Wall Street Journal bestseller The Energy Bus, follows Josh, an up and comer in his company, who has lost his passion at work. Challenged by his boss to take two weeks and decide if he really wants to work there, Josh takes off for the country, where he meets a wise farmer who gives him a seed and a promise: find the right place to plant the seed, and his purpose will be revealed.

This sense of purpose, asserts Gordon, is the natural remedy for the crushing guilt that many working parents in particular experience. (You know the drill: when you�re working late, you feel guilty that you�re not home with the kids; when you�re at home, you feel guilty about all the work not getting done.)

�When you believe your job has no meaning, of course you�re going to feel guilty for spending so much time there,� he notes. �It�s the realization that you are making a difference in the lives of others that lets you let go of the guilt, and truly immerse yourself in what you�re doing during both seasons.�

Gordon�s advice on rethinking the concept of work/life balance and finding passion and purpose in both arenas is to begin by letting go of the work/life balance notion. Instead, think �purpose and passion.� It�s true that work/life balance is a topic that seems to be on many minds, says Gordon, citing a recent NPR segment titled �In America, Too Much All Work, No Play?�

But in many ways, he insists, a perfectly balanced life is a perfectly tepid life. How much balance do you think Bono has when U2 is on tour? What about an Olympic athlete preparing for a competition? Or the leadership team at Facebook? Probably not much, but their passion and purpose fuel them to work harder and longer, with more joy and satisfaction in both work and life.

�When your goal is to achieve work/life balance, you�ll be constantly disappointed and so will your loved ones,� says Gordon. �But when you approach every day with passion and purpose, whether you�re working long hours to prepare an important presentation or staying up late with your daughter to work on her science project, you can find joy and happiness in whatever it is you�re pursuing at that moment.�

Look at your work/life blend over the past year. Consider it as a whole. Rather than thinking of your work and life day to day, think of it as a whole. How many times did you get away with your family last year? Were there particular weeks/months where you worked really, really long hours? Were there times you were less busy?

You might find that, when viewed that way, you did have a balanced life. Or you might realize you need to make a change in the way you do things during the upcoming year. �Instead of driving yourself crazy trying to achieve a work/life balance every day, look at your life on a weekly, monthly, and yearly basis. Schedule times to work hard, recharge, renew, play, and engage with your family and friends,� suggests Gordon.

Identify the seasons in your company�s work flow. Most industries/companies have busy seasons (when they�re getting ready for major industry events or peak sales times) and not-so-busy seasons. It might be easy for you to plan your work/home life flow around these times. Not just in terms of when you plan vacations, but also in terms of daily work hours. During the slow time, it�s okay to leave a little earlier each day if you know you�re going to be working long hours once busy season arrives.

�For me, there is a time to be on the road and a time to be at home with my family,� notes Gordon. �My wife and I look at our year as a whole. We plan our schedule according to the seasons of our life knowing that I�ll be slammed in August, September, and October and slower in December and July. We plan for when I�ll be working and when I�ll be more engaged with the family. You can do the same. Everyone�s rhythm is a little different, but when you find the right one for you and your life, you�ll be able to achieve a lot more at work and at home.�

Keep in mind your family�s seasons too. Of course, you can�t base everything on work schedules. There are times your family needs you more than others: birth of a new baby, when a child starts school, or when an older parent is having a crisis and needs your help.

�At times like these, you will want to put in the family time and make it up when you can at work,� says Gordon. �You have to be ready to adjust to the season. You have to go where you are needed. If you are worried about work at those times, you can take comfort in knowing that there will be a period when you can apply more of yourself to the job.�

Build up a �hard work� bank account with your company. When the company needs you to really push, then push hard and do it cheerfully. This way, when you need to slow down the pace or take time off, they�ll be willing to work with you. Gordon suggests you think of it as making deposits into a bank account.

�By willingly and happily accepting the challenge of a difficult project or client or by working long hours to meet an important deadline, you make deposits in the company�s �hard work� bank account,� he explains. �When you need to make a withdrawal, whether it�s for a family emergency or just a much-needed break, you�ll have plenty of goodwill with the higher-ups and they won�t begrudge you for taking the time off.�

When you�re at work, really engage. Fully commit to whatever you�re doing at work. Don�t complain � positivity goes a long way. And don�t feel guilty that you are not at home. Feeling guilty is a recipe for misery and poor performance on the job and unhappiness at home. Commit fully to your season of hard work while planning for your season of rest and recharging.

When you�re at home, really BE at home. Throw yourself into those precious family relationships. Don�t spend family time thinking about work or zoning-out in front of the TV or computer. It�s not about the amount of time we spend with our families, says Gordon. It�s about how engaged we are during the time we do have with them.

�What I�m really talking about is making the most of your time however you spend it � of making each and every moment really count,� explains Gordon. �Understanding your rhythms and planning and committing to the seasons of your life may not help you achieve perfect work/life balance. But you will create a life that is more passionate, more productive, and happier in every way.�

(Jon Gordon is a consultant, keynote speaker, and international best-selling author of The Seed, Soup, The Energy Bus, The No Complaining Rule, Training Camp, and The Shark and the Goldfish. He and his books have been featured on CNN, NBC�s Today show, as well as in Forbes, Fast Company, O (The Oprah magazine), the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times. Jon�s principles have been put to the test by NFL football teams and Fortune 500 companies.)

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